It's that time of year: PCS season. Whether we are moving or not, in a military community, there is no escape. Either we are moving or some of our friends are moving, or both. This year for me it's both, and this is the part I dread the most: saying "good-bye." We will be among the last of our PCSing friends to leave our assignment this summer, so we are spectators at the painful parade of departures, enduring the season of "lasts" with everyone who is leaving. Last chapel service, last dinner at a favorite restaurant ...
It has been interesting to see how people prefer to take their leave. Some like a definite good-bye, even a big event, and some just like to avoid the actual farewell altogether. It has made me think about how and when I prefer to say my farwells.
When you are moving do you hug people when you see them at the commissary (people you know, I mean) just in case it is the last time you'll see them? Do you plan a party and invite everyone so you can say "good-bye" once and for all, to avoid the pain of repeated farewells? Do you go door-to-door, shedding tears with each friend? Or do you prefer to leave quietly, not recognizing the last time you see each friend, feeling it is less painful that way?
BAH Allowance
Any answers helpful: Our neighbor is in the military. E9 I believe. Was a platoon leader. Married, 1 child together 6 yr old, and a stepson (her son).His wife somewhere along the way developed a gambling addiction. Spent his re-enlistment bonus, pawned his stuff, stole from one of his soldiers wife etc. While I think it was despicable, he has known about this for 2 years and STILL left her in charge of large sums of cash and sought no help. Any how... she got arrested for pawning someone's wedding ring. He refused to bail her out, filed for divorce while she was in jail, tried to send step son to Illinois to his grandma's permenently on basis "it was better for him". But didnt tell him til he was back there. Kept the 6 yr old daughter who he then had stay at his Aunts house. Day after son left, a woman started showing up at his house. His step son called us devistated that he thought his step dad had "dumped" him. We already have a relationship with the 6 yr old as she rides my horse. We brought son back to our house and are now in process of fostering him as step dad does not want him back and the woman who showed up rather quickly has already moved in although he is not even started divorce proceedings. Is BAH a lump sum or based on number of dependants? And if so, is the step son entitled to any support from him as long as they are still married? Not looking for any money for myself but for the son as we have 2 kids and are not wealthy by ANY means. Any info appreciated!